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When animals want to mate, the secret pheromones to attract members of the opposite sex. Us humans unfortunately, aren’t that lucky.
A lot of men, even those who consider themselves seductive, have a very basic problem: they see a girl that they like, but they simply don’t know how to talk to her.
What I mean by that, is that they don’t know the right way to approach a girl and start a conversation.
Most men will just walk up to the girl and burst out a line, while others will just walk up to her and tell her how hot she is.
Both are the conversational equivalents of premature ejaculation. Well, don’t be like those guys! Here is a guide on how to talk to a woman.
Right off the bat, there is one thing that we need to clarify and that you need to understand: despite what those sites full of dating tips and guides will have you believe, people are not social robots.
What I want to say with that, is that there is no surefire way that will ensure a smooth approach and a positive outcome when it comes to learning how to talk to girls.
This guy will teach you the basics, but you are going to have to put your personal touched to it. After all, when it comes to girls, “be yourself” is one of the best bits of advice anyone can give you. Let’s start!
1. Prepare the ground
Don’t just approach a girl that you like and start talking. This will only make you seem needy or even worse, creepy. What you need to do before approaching a girl is lay down some ground work. Show her that you are interested and check to see if she shows any signs of interest. How can you do that? well, the answer is simple: eye contact! Just look at her and smile.
Does she acknowledge your glances? Does she smile back? Does she glance back at your direction? If so, then the mission is a go. Mastering the art of glancing and smiling at strangers is one of the hardest parts when it comes to learning how to talk to women, but with a little practice, you’ll get the hang of it.
2. The approach
Knowing how to approach women is essential and it can mean the difference between success and failure. Your approach should always be natural and casual. Is she sitting at the bar? Well sit next to her and order a drink for yourself. Is she with a group of friends? well, move your group of friends closer to hers. Is she sitting at the library reading a book?
Sit next or opposite her. In other words, don’t approach and start talking to her right away. Be warned though, if she is with another guy, you are putting yourself at risk by approaching her. If he is her boyfriend not only will you get shot down, but you will probably get beat up as well!
3. Breaking the ice
Now that you are close to her, you actually need to start talking to her. Isn’t that why you are reading a guide about how to talk to girls? Well, once again, you need to keep things casual. Don’t just introduce yourself and even worse, don’t start with compliment about her looks. Make a remark about your surroundings or something that you noticed on or near her.
Is she drinking a Mojito? Ask her if it’s any good. Is she reading a book? Ask her how it is or tell her that you have read that. The more girls you approach the better you’ll become at finding little ice breakers like the ones I just mentioned.
4. The conversation
If she is actually interested in you, then by that stage you will be having a light conversation. Here are some things that you should look out for:
- Ask questions: Women love to talk and asking questions about them is a great way to get them to do that and it also shows that you care about them. Make sure that your questions aren’t that personal at first. Start with casual issues like the weather or the place you are currently in and make them slightly more personal with each question. Remember, this is not an interrogation so once she answers your question, make sure you comment on her answer and tell her something on the subject as well.
- Be natural: Don’t use canned lines and materials. Dating tips sites may say that they work, but most pretty girls have probably heard them all a million times by the time you approach them. A man who uses his own “material” is way more attractive.
- Pay attention to her: Listen to what she is saying and don’t zone out when she is talking. you should also demonstrate that you are paying attention with your body language. Leaning towards her, maintaining eye contact when she’s talking and nodding are great wtys of showing that you are listening to her.
5. Closing the deal
So, the conversation went well, you both had a lot of fun and now it’s time for one of you to go. How can you show her that you are interested since you can’t secrete a pheromone? Well, just let her know how much of a nice time you had and tell her that you would like to do that again. If everything went well, she will give you her number or she will even set up a date with you right there and there.
Learning how to approach a woman is not easy. It needs a lot of practice. You might crash and burn the first times you try it. The important thing is to never give up! With a little practice, you will master this “dark” and very rewarding art!