The absolute guide to clitoral orgasms!
If happen to be a man who is used to only giving women vaginal orgasms only, you may find the very idea of giving clitoral orgasms really hard and you may even not know where to start.
Well, we are here to help you!
The first thing that you need to understand is that a clitoral orgasm nothing all that special as far as achieving is concerned, it’s just an orgasm like any other.
The only difference is that you will be stimulating your woman’s clitoris to make her get an orgasm, instead of her vagina.
Here are some types that will help you give amazing clitoral orgasms, regardless of whether you are trying for the first time or not.
Note: it goes without saying that before you stimulate the clitoris you need to be able to locate it.
Just look up one of the many diagrams available online)
Watch her masturbate
Most women usually give themselves clitoral orgasms while masturbating, so the easiest way to learn how to give one to a woman, is to simply watch her masturbate and then emulate the things she does when you are in bed with her. It goes without saying that you should first ask for her permission, since not all women are comfortable with being watched while masturbating.
What you should be watching out for, is the motion that she uses when stroking her clitoris and whether that is vertical, horizontal or circular, or whether she uses a combination of movements. You should also note whether she favors one particular area and if she she stimulates her labia or penetrates herself while stimulating her clitoris. You should also pay attention to the intensity of her strokes.
Use your hands while pleasuring her orally.
Women often complain that the oral sex they receive from their partners is severely lacking in precision. They also complain about it being too “wet” which means that there isn’t enough friction between the tongue and their clitoris.
This is why sometimes it is better to use your hands in conjunction with your mouth when giving oral sex, in order to produce more sensations and make the woman more aroused. Most people can achieve more precision with their hands than they can with their mouths and tongues, which will probably make giving a clitoral orgasm to a woman much easier.
Ask for feedback.
Many women don’t have a problem with providing some instructions to their man during sex. Let’s face it, there is no way for you to read her mind or guess what she likes and what tells her on, so she telling you what to do and when to do it, is the best way for you both to have a great time.
If she just starts giving you instructions, don’t worry, you are not doing something wrong! She is just helping you along since you can’t be an expert on her body during your first few sexual encounters.
Every woman is different.
Some women can simply never experience orgasms through clitoral stimulation alone. For some women, clitoral stimulation just augments the fun they get out of sex, while for others, it is vaginal stimulation that augments that fun and pleasure.
There are also a few women that actually find clitoral or vaginal stimulation to be painful and uncomfortable. Remember that the point of sex is not getting to an orgasm, the point is that both you and your partner have a great time and experience great amounts of pleasure. So you have to find something that both of you will enjoy.
Also remember that just because a stimulation or sexual technique worked on a woman or two, this doesn’t mean that it will work on all of them or the one you are currently with.
Get her turned on.
Sexual arousal is extremely important when it comes to the ability of a woman experiencing a clitoral orgasm, or any other orgasm for that matter. Sometimes women can get aroused without direct stimulation.
Other times the rind kind of foreplay or the right atmosphere for a sexual encounter might be enough to make a woman aroused and primed for an orgasm. It is always a good idea to spend some time to get physically intimate with each other before you start having sex, and the same goes for oral sex or direct stimulation of the genitals with your hands and fingers.
Find out what appeals to your partner’s sexuality. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask her. Also take the time to think about and eliminate things which could get in the way of your efforts to generate sexual arousal, things like stress and anxiety.